Looking back at this day in 2017 seems unreal, it’s crazy how quick these 12 months have come by. It was a season of loss. I lost:
- My friend.
- The girl I loved left.
- My best friend.
All in the space of 2 weeks.
I remember feeling empty, lonely and without purpose. These were people that knew me, people that grew with me, struggled with me and cried with me. I was soon surrounded by strangers, how can one be so lonely in a room filled with “friends”.
In a cry for help, I found myself watching numerous sermons by Bishop TD Jakes, in one of the sermons he said the following words which have stuck with me till this day:
“Until you take some responsibility, you cannot change what you will not confront”
“Somethings you went through so God could prepare you and other things you went through so God could prepare them.”
It was these words that allowed me to fully engage in prayer, to accept responsibility of my actions and to accept that certain things will happen in our lives whether we like it or not.
Not everyone who enters your life is meant to stay in your life.
Losing those people was the most painful thing to have happened at that period in time but probably the best thing to have happened in my life.
I am the man I am today because of the pain I endured, I am the man I am today because of the people I lost. My loss allowed me to engage in the word of God, I was able to grow in faith and come to the realisation that while we are still alive on this earth, we will go through different seasons and challenges.
I endured a painful season of heart break and abandonment. It is by the grace of God that I am the man I am today, I am focused about my future and working towards my calling.
I allowed the season I was in define me, that tore me apart resulting in prolonged suffering. Don’t let the season you’re in define your life. You have two options:
1. Accept that the season is over or
2. Cry about it for the rest of your life
Let me tell you something, when the season is done, IT’S DONE! All things are working for your good! God is intentional! Don’t focus on who left, focus on your next step. There will always be unmet expectations, we will think things will go a certain way but end up going the complete opposite. My advice is, START WALKING.
Don’t be afraid to say goodbye to people who choose to leave your life. Some people will play a major role in your life that when they leave, it will break you. Don’t lose heart, be strong. When people choose to leave, START WALKING.
Some people will leave your life and expect to find you where they left you. START WALKING! They’ll come looking for you where they left you and you won’t be there. They thought you couldn’t progress if they weren’t there! START WAKING! By the time they get to where they left you, you won’t be where they expected to find you. GOD IS INTENTIONAL!
Don’t let your circumstances or others dictate your path. I was never an intelligent person, I was mocked by friends when they found out I wanted to study Law. My teachers told me I wasn’t smart enough! I worked hard and got an A* at A Level Law. I graduated with a 2.1. I have now completed law school, a Masters in Law and now in full time employment in a Law firm at 23. Yet at 16 others tried to dictate my path, they thought I couldn’t do it.
Today I am 23 years old and the happiest I have ever been. START WALKING.